The Psychological, Mental, and Spiritual Consequences of Talking About Other People
by Elder Wewo Kotokay , Melanesian Conservation Elders Introduction In our daily interactions, it’s almost second nature to discuss others—whether it’s sharing news, venting frustrations, or simply engaging in gossip. However, the act of talking about other people, especially in a negative or judgmental way, carries profound psychological, mental, and spiritual consequences. The statement, "You should never, ever talk about other people," is not just a moral guideline but a profound piece of wisdom that speaks to the interconnectedness of our thoughts, words, and energy. Let’s explore what this means and why it matters. Psychological Consequences 1. Reinforces Negative Thought Patterns When we talk about others, especially in a critical or judgmental way, we reinforce negative thought patterns in our own minds. Our brains are wired to focus on what we repeatedly engage with, and by fixating on others’ flaws or mistakes, we train ourselves to see the world through a lens of ...